{"id":1316,"date":"2019-02-11T12:44:12","date_gmt":"2019-02-11T19:44:12","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/www.thefundfamily.com\/?p=1316"},"modified":"2019-02-11T12:44:24","modified_gmt":"2019-02-11T19:44:24","slug":"my-yes-man-experiment","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/trevorrumsey.com\/thefundfamily\/my-yes-man-experiment\/","title":{"rendered":"My &#8220;Yes Man&#8221; Experiment"},"content":{"rendered":"\n<p>One of my all-time favorite movies is the 2008 comedy \u201cYes Man\u201d. It stars Jim Carrey and features a guy who has a hard time committing to anything. He reluctantly attends a seminar with a friend and is called upon to become a \u201cyes man\u201d. From that point on he has to say yes to everything. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-embed-youtube aligncenter wp-block-embed is-type-video is-provider-youtube wp-embed-aspect-16-9 wp-has-aspect-ratio\"><div class=\"wp-block-embed__wrapper\">\n<iframe title=\"YES MAN (2008) Scene: &quot;The answer is yes.&quot;\" width=\"800\" height=\"450\" src=\"https:\/\/www.youtube.com\/embed\/3la7QyMBvu8?feature=oembed\" frameborder=\"0\" allow=\"accelerometer; autoplay; clipboard-write; encrypted-media; gyroscope; picture-in-picture; web-share\" referrerpolicy=\"strict-origin-when-cross-origin\" allowfullscreen><\/iframe>\n<\/div><figcaption>YES!<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<p>He ends up saying yes to things he normally would have never agreed to and his life is changed forever. He ends taking guitar lessons, learns Korean, goes out with his friends he had been neglecting. The list goes on. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" style=\"text-align:center\">The &#8220;Yes Man&#8221; Experiment in Practice<br><\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>For years I&#8217;ve wondered what that would be like in practice. So, I finally decided to try a &#8220;yes man experiment&#8221; last week. Obviously, I put some limitations to it. I wasn\u2019t going to do anything illegal nor anything to jeopardize my marriage. Even with that, I never was faced with any of these things. I decided that I would only do this for a week, Monday-Monday and I wouldn\u2019t tell anyone what I was doing. Here\u2019s what happened during that week:<\/p>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" style=\"text-align:center\">What Happened<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>A lot of the requests came from my wife, Tara. Most of them were small requests, like changing Rhett\u2019s diaper or taking out the trash. Some helped grow our relationship like a back rub before bed or going with her to the Doctor. On one occasion, we could see<a href=\"https:\/\/www.thefundfamily.com\/family-traditions-the-4th-of-july\/\"> fireworks off in the distance<\/a>. Tara said we should go find them. We went and found them close to our house and enjoyed a random firework show in the middle of February. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<div class=\"wp-block-image\"><figure class=\"aligncenter\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" fetchpriority=\"high\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"800\" height=\"370\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.thefundfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/IMG_0217-1024x473.png?resize=800%2C370&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"rfs\" class=\"wp-image-1317\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/trevorrumsey.com\/thefundfamily\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/IMG_0217.png?resize=1024%2C473&amp;ssl=1 1024w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/trevorrumsey.com\/thefundfamily\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/IMG_0217.png?resize=300%2C139&amp;ssl=1 300w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/trevorrumsey.com\/thefundfamily\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/IMG_0217.png?resize=768%2C355&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/trevorrumsey.com\/thefundfamily\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/IMG_0217.png?w=1600&amp;ssl=1 1600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/trevorrumsey.com\/thefundfamily\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/IMG_0217.png?w=2400&amp;ssl=1 2400w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 800px) 100vw, 800px\" \/><figcaption>Random Firework Show<\/figcaption><\/figure><\/div>\n\n\n\n<p>I got asked to do a lot of things at work too. There were random emails I would get inviting me to optional meetings. I went to those meetings. One of them was a wellness meeting teaching us how to make healthier meals. It was informative and I wouldn\u2019t have thought of making those things in the first place. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>With Rhett, I was more willing to play with him and cater to his wants and needs. There were plenty of times where he wanted to play, but I was in the middle of something. I am so glad that I stopped what I was doing because we had a lot of fun.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<figure class=\"wp-block-image\"><img data-recalc-dims=\"1\" decoding=\"async\" width=\"768\" height=\"1024\" src=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/www.thefundfamily.com\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/IMG_0212-e1549908037281-768x1024.jpg?resize=768%2C1024&#038;ssl=1\" alt=\"rhett\" class=\"wp-image-1318\" srcset=\"https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/trevorrumsey.com\/thefundfamily\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/IMG_0212-e1549908037281.jpg?resize=768%2C1024&amp;ssl=1 768w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/trevorrumsey.com\/thefundfamily\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/IMG_0212-e1549908037281.jpg?resize=225%2C300&amp;ssl=1 225w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/trevorrumsey.com\/thefundfamily\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/IMG_0212-e1549908037281.jpg?w=1600&amp;ssl=1 1600w, https:\/\/i0.wp.com\/trevorrumsey.com\/thefundfamily\/wp-content\/uploads\/2019\/02\/IMG_0212-e1549908037281.jpg?w=2400&amp;ssl=1 2400w\" sizes=\"(max-width: 768px) 100vw, 768px\" \/><figcaption>Rhett and I had a good week<\/figcaption><\/figure>\n\n\n\n<h2 class=\"wp-block-heading\" style=\"text-align:center\">What I Discovered<\/h2>\n\n\n\n<p>I discovered that I said no to a lot of things. Most of the time I didn\u2019t explicitly say \u201cno\u201d, but I would ignore questions or find ways around it. I didn\u2019t realize how much I was missing out on. \u00a0It\u2019s definitely hard to say yes to certain things. Some of the time I was saying yes to stuff I didn\u2019t really want to do, but it ended up being really good for me.<\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>It&#8217;s sometimes hard for me to stop what I&#8217;m doing in the moment and go  do something else. I noticed this more during this week. I got invited  to play a board game with my family at my parent&#8217;s. I&#8217;m glad I stopped  what I was doing and played with them.  <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>I highly recommend that you find ways to say yes more often in your life. This was a week long experiment for me, but I plan to implement this more into my life. <\/p>\n\n\n\n<p><strong><em>Always say \u2018yes\u2019 to the present moment\u2026 Surrender to what is. Say \u2018yes\u2019 to life \u2013 and see how life starts suddenly to start working for you rather than against you. &#8211;<a href=\"http:\/\/achieveyourbestlife.com\/2017\/12\/17\/power-of-saying-yes\/\"> Eckhart Tolle<\/a><\/em><\/strong><\/p>\n\n\n\n<p>Any questions about my &#8220;experiment&#8221;? When have you said yes to things that you normally wouldn&#8217;t have? What happened? Share your comments below, <a href=\"https:\/\/www.facebook.com\/thefundfamily\/\">or on our Facebook page.<\/a> <br><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p>One of my all-time favorite movies is the 2008 comedy \u201cYes Man\u201d. It stars Jim Carrey and features a guy who has a hard time committing to anything. 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